Many people are dismayed when they don’t receive a sign from their loved one shortly after passing. Much of this might be due to the spirit itself.
According to psychic medium Barbara Williams, it depends on the spirit. “I have contacted spirits as soon as a week, but the conversations haven’t been lengthy since they do not have much energy for a while. It takes at least a few months to a year for them to build up enough energy for a longer visit.”
While the soul is eternal, this doesn’t mean the recently deceased are willing, or even capable of communication, especially if their deaths were difficult or unexpected. It often takes them time to come to terms with what has happened to them. When they’re ready, they will reach out to those they wish to communicate with.
If the death was sudden or traumatic, it might take them even longer to return. According to psychic medium Raymond Richard, “They don’t immediately go to where everyone else goes. Their souls go to a place where they can heal first.” This is especially true for people who took their own lives. They need enough time to mend before they can move on.
If this is the case, the sign might be fleeting in nature. People often miss them because they aren’t what they were expecting them to be. Our logical minds take the information and find a sensible explanation for it, even if it truly doesn’t fit. It’s easier for us to rationalize it, instead of seeing it for what it really is.
Here are a few of the lesser known signs
1. Physical Signs
Sometimes, our loved ones send us a message through a physical sign. In August of 1982, Marion Luoma and several family members drove back from Iowa from her sister Stacy’s wedding. It had been a long drive and they were looking forward to finally getting home.
As they neared Highway 202, her mother who was in the car with her began having massive chest pains. As she pressed her hand to her chest, she knew something had happened. “Something is wrong with the family,” she said.
The chest pains immediately eased up, so they continued on their way home. As they came through the door, the phone was ringing. It was her mother’s sister calling to tell them that Marion’s grandfather had died. He died of an aneurism in his heart at the exact moment when her mother began having the strange chest pains.
2. Random Dreams
If a loved one comes to you in a dream to say goodbye, we often accept this as a sign, but what if the dream feels random? Laura Pelletier hoped for a sign from her mother, but after seven years nothing happened. Then, one night she had a strange dream.
In the dream, she asked her brother where her mother was. He told her that she was at the 99 Restaurant in Methuen, Massachusetts, having a drink with Rich.
Rich had been a close friend of her mothers who had also passed away. It made perfect sense to Laura that her mother would be having a drink with him in her favorite restaurant. While it wasn’t the direct communication she had hoped for, she knew that the message was real. Her mother was safe and happy, having a drink with an old friend in a comfortable location.
3. Songs That Get Stuck in Your Head
Mary Lou Moriarty ‘s father had been gone for nearly a month when she woke up one morning with a song playing through her mind. The song was Papa Can You Hear Me? from the musical Yentyl byBarbara Streisand.
The song made her think of her father. He had always enjoyed singing and even sang in a choir. While she never heard him sing that particular song, it was bittersweet nonetheless. She’s fairly certain he would have known it and would have appreciated her thoughts about him.
As she started her morning, she found herself singing the song aloud. Moments later, a spatula flew up out of a crock filled with utensils and landed on the floor beside her. It was one of the first signs he gave her.
The only problem was in determining if he liked the song or not. Mary-Lou said he had a great sense of humor, so he probably was playing a prank on her.
4. Flickering Lights
Maria DeFatima (pictured above with her late mother) knows that her mother is around her frequently. When her mother grew ill, Maria cared for her until her death in 2013. She has received many signs from her mother over the years.
“I was in my kitchen Saturday and I just knew she was with me. I started singing the song I sang to her while she was passing ‘I believe in angels’ one of the light bulbs kept flickering and I thought nooo but it kept doing it until I finished singing thinking the bulb would go out but it didn’t! I miss her so much and she knows it,” she said.
Our loved ones are around us, sending us signs. We often miss them because they aren’t the type of signs that we expected. For more information about signs loved ones send us, along with dozens of heartwarming stories, please check out my new book. Signs of Spirits – When Loved Ones Visit
Joni Mayhan is a paranormal investigator and author from central Massachusetts. When she isn’t investigating or writing, she also teaches a Paranormal 101 class online and in Gardner, MA. To learn more about her, visit her website Jonimayhan.com
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